Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Today is not better

I did get a little sleep - about 4 hours.  It helped, just luck is not on my side right now.

Let me explain why I am upset about the house.

1) Kitchen - I have to have the island - the design of the house was built around and the plumbing for the sink and dishwasher is in the foundation.  For me to move it would mean A TON of money.

The cabinet maker is going to make it about 6 inches thinner, which will work, but I will have a smaller than usual sink.  The problem was the space walking between the pantry and the side of this island - very tight space.  It is just not what I wanted.

2) The Master Bathroom - It is a very thin bathroom.  If someone is standing at the sink, another person cannot walk by without the person at the sink scrunching up.  How often will that happen - a lot - to get to the toilet or the closet you have to walk by the sinks.  There is nothing that can be done about it and I am very upset about it.

OK, why this bothers me so badly is that neither the architect nor the builder said anything to me about these spaces.  They acted like it was a normal thing and those sizes were everywhere.  DH and I tried to measure it out, but until you actually see it - it is so abstract that you cannot tell.  Out of the two - I am most upset about the bathroom.

Now, I do lay some of the blame on the architect and builder, but mostly on me.  I have screwed up our house.   I signed off on these blue prints.  Everytime I think about it I cry.  I cannot even make decisions anymore because I feel like I am going to screw something else up. 

DH is going to meet with the builder tonight about the closet.  I cannot meet with him right now.  The builder is not answering my texts or email, but he is answering DH's.  That infuriates me even more.

At this point, there is absolutely nothing I can do about any of it and a normal person would let it go, but I cannot seem to do it.  Maybe when it is all done I can.

Everything seems to have that luster of sucking right now.

The concrete cannot be laid because we are having a week of flood producing rain.  Seriously - the week finally came that they were going work on the shed and we get this.

I went to the bank to get our monthly cash and make a deposit.  System is down - they cannot make any transactions.

Go to the library.  No parking whatsoever and I did not have my library card with me.  Sigh.

DH and I finally get a week together to spend time with each other (ie not doing so great right now), but we have to go clean out my grandmother's house.  Then move as soon as we get back for one day, then go pick up the kids.  Keep in mind - my grandmother lived 8 hours from me.  The sister is 5 hours from me in the opposite direction of my grandmother.

Homeschool starts that next week and no we cannot put it off any more.  Some of the extra-curriculars are starting their sessions, so we have to get organized.

I am just trying to breathe and work it all one day at a time.


  1. I am so sorry - I do not like to make decisions - ie paint color throws me in to a tizzy. I am sure the 6 inches will help, but I know you are upset. You did your very best and it is good enough. Your house is going to be beautiful.

    Not sure what to say on the builder, maybe he realizes that he shoudl have said something and so he is afraid to talk to you.

    Could you sister meet you part of the way to drop the kids off?

    1. Yes, she is going to meet us 1/2 way, so that will help. Thank you for suggesting that!

      I am trying to get it together - I think there has just been so much stress for so long, that hit a wall. Maybe going to my grandmother's isn't a bad thing - I can cry and get out of some of these emotions.

  2. That's a bummer on the narrow spots, but like Melissa said, it will be beautiful. (as I'm now looking over our plans really close to see if we have any narrow spots!). Maybe getting away to take care of your grandma's things will be a good break from the house problems, like you said.

  3. I have a bathroom where a person at the sink has to scrunch up! Got it! What kind of closet is beyond that where anyone would need to go? Did you design this house yourself? To get out of the mess in the kitchen, I would pay the big bucks!

    The plumbing problems are why I hate a slab. I have had to have plumbing in the crawl spaces and in basement below kitchen and bathroom worked on too many times.

    You will be spending a lot of time in their and you don't need to have this problem for the rest of your time there.

    You really need to get back onto the solutions to your back problems soon. I am glad you know how to make it better. I need that information for myself.

    Can you just pack up all the stuff and store it, getting rid of the larger pieces of furniture/appliances no one wants? That will put off the sorting and time eaters. Sorry about all this at once falling on you.